? Are men intimidated/scarced of financially sucexful women.
Yes for sure,some men back off financially sucexful women but for some men,its not fear that impels them to back off,its the woman herself that makes them back off.
Basically there are 3 reasons why men are back off and it all depends on the nature of the man.
The 3 reasons are as follows,
The first is when the woman herself developes a host of bad atitude in addition to her mountain high arrogance as a result of her financial status. These kind of women feel that because they are financially ok,nobody should talk to them since its their determination that got them where they are. Even when a man is not domineering,she ignores all your good advice or words. Some of this type take decisions without consulting with their man. Such women compete with men or want to show that they are better than men.
Men are aggresive by nurture hence do not like that another boss will man their ship so men back off from such women.
This kind of women turn men off instantly,even in business,men do not like having any kind of transaction with this type of women,some only tolerate it when she is their superior in the office or when necesity demands it and in such cases they try to conclude within the shortest time so they can get away from her.
Sometimes,intelligent men are able to sense this from first contact with such women and subsequently avoid such women. Then after years of male avoidance such women will detest men for being weak willed,they go about telling everybody that cares to listen that men hate sucexful women.
What these women need to understand is that sucex in the busines world requires determination and a klind of sturborness(persistence),aggresiveness,opinionate and a host of other “fighter” traits but you have to learn how to keep social interaction from business attitude, this is not an easy task though but if you need a realtionship you have to develope them.
In truth,men prefer sucexful women when,several studies has found that when men are asked the kind of woman they want,most will say they prefer sucexful women but in reality sucexful women are the type that find it hardest to love or finding true love is a big challenge to them.
Secondly, a man with low self esteem will instantly back off from financially sucexful women. He back off because he have nothing to use in dominating the woman.
These are the kind of men who dominate women via financial security,since he pays the bills,he assumes he is the boss(dictator).
So when he meets a sucexful woman,he has nothing to use in dominating her so he backs off.
A majority of men who back off financially sucexful women come from this class.
Lastly,is a man who has not found his footing,he will tend to keep her at a distant if he has not made up his mind to marry her. This he does for security reason because if he dates/marries her,she will pay his bills,real men dont like that,not because it makes him feel weak rather he does not like it cos he feels that what makes hima man is his ability to provide for her and it hurts him each time he wannot afford what she wants/needs. Real men believe a woman should be a support,not a lifeline. He resons “what if after paying these bills and i do not marry her ”
if she pays his bill and at the end of the day he walks away,she will never forgive him,she will spread all kinds of stories of how ungrateful men are(all men are the same),without considering that he never agreed to marry her in the begining. So real men back off so they do not find themself in the ugly situation where they are forced to settle down for her not because of love but because she has spent much on them. But if within them they make the decision to marry her,they may come closer and allow her spend since once they find their footing,that will stop. For some even after they have made the decision to marry her,they may want to test to see if she has a good atitude or she wants to be boss because she pays the bills,if she does not have got character,off they go.
Secondly real men who are not yet able to pay the bills do not like to make long term commitment,those who do so do it from external pressure to settle down. Real men love differently,they love with care,consideration and logical analysis of the situation unlike boys who may not care and will be carried away by their emotions to make commitment they cannot keep to.
The solution to this is both ways,women need to realise that even if you pay the bills,it does not make you the boss.
Men need to realise that even if you pay the bills,it does not make you a dictator.
As a specie,we have come out of that primitive thinking characterised by gender superiority ideas, in our modern world,everyone needs to understand the role s/he plays in the wellbeing of the family and play by the rules.
If you are a sucexful woman with a bad attitude,no man will want you close,any man who comes close is one that is ready to fight and break you as time goes on.
If you are a man with low self esteem,you will be forever intimidated by stupid women until you rectify your mind and get to work to become a better man.
So back to our question of are men intimated by sucexful women.
The answer is yes and no,it depends on the man involded and the woman involved. If a sucexful woman has good manners or has womanly attitude then she will be a priced gem for any man that comes close but if she has a bad attitude,even if he account is 20digits,no real man will want to come close.
If a man lacks self esteem even a stupid woman who is bold enough to command him will be a a treat to him.
Also sucexful women need to develope feminity to accomodate men. When i say feminity,there are certain qualities that makes each gender what they are. Men are typically associated with agresiveness,determination,competitiveness,conquaring, and a host of rough traits. In attitude since men are competitive,when two men meet,the competition is ignited even if in subtle ways. The aim is to be the alpha male among the pack and the alpha is the one that can buldoze all other males into submition to his authority. This is where the problem lies,when sucexful women are with men,they exhibit male qualities such as domineering,command,opinionate,bossy and competitveness. So the man with them will not feel that nurturing environment he needs,he feels like he is with his fellow man,this is compounded by the fact that she is now the alpha he will have to obey. He may take it for a while but as soon as he finds a woman that provides a feminine nest for him,off he goes,it does not matter if this new babe is penniless. Some rude men will even keep the two,collect money from their “boss” and build a good life with their love. If this goes on for long,maybe the boss finds out and all bubble is burst or he marries the love to the constanation of the boss. At such cases she will say “but i got him everything he needs”, yes you did but you also gave him what he does not need. The situation is that of a woman of integrity,she does not seek a mans money,she wants him for who he is,so also it is with a man,a woman may be super sucexful but that does not matter if she cannot make a good mate.
Piece by eleas stanley
